Positive Ageing in the Third Quarter

Join me in a transformative journey that might shift your perspective from seeing aging as a process to dread, to viewing it as a meaningful, life-affirming experience. Everyone ages, but not everyone ages positively.

This page is dedicated to empowering and enlightening myself, and anyone who wants to join me, about positive ageing – a concept that embraces the beauty of growing older with zest, resilience, and an unshakable love for life.

Sian Wood and Julie Roberts on the paddleboards at Lee on Solent
The Sunny Mermaids Lee on solent

What’s Changed?

Only three years ago, I always had a back up plan. If things didn’t work out, I could always end it.

How terrible that seems to me now. It wasn’t that I had a bad life. I’ve always been a risk taker and I didn’t particularly value life. I couldn’t see past 62 because that’s when my family goes. They don’t make old bones.

Now at 61, I am happier than I’ve ever been. I have a completely different outlook on life and I want to share the journey that I’ve been on and maybe inspire others who feel they can’t face old age.

 

Can We Really Rave and Rage at the Dying of the Light?

“Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

The first three lines of a poem from Dylan Thomas…..who died at the age of 39, so had no experience of old age.

The truth is that there is no “raging at the dying of the light”. All of the things associated with raging and raving are the very things that not only hasten the darkness but could also cause years of living miserably and dying in agonising pain.

Sian Wood showing off new paddle board given as 60th birthday present
Sian Wood cooking on the beach

The Start of My Journey

I was heading for a miserable old age and an early grave. Mainly because I was miserable. Or maybe, more truthfully, I was angry. I’ve been angry since I was 11.

My journey into finding happiness in my 60s started 6 months before COVID. I already knew my job was making me ill and I had to get a life.

I gave up well paid work to build an online business. I spent 6 months learning website design and digital marketing and built online sales training.

As soon as it was ready, COVID came along and made it completely worthless. I had to make some changes rapidly because I had run out of money and it looked like the industry I had experience in had been wiped out by COVID.

I was seriously considering that back up plan I mentioned earlier. 

Where Did I Go Wrong

I have made some serious mistakes in my life. Financially, romantically and in my career. Mostly because “I leap without a net”. I rarely think about the consequences of my bright ideas. I just dive right in.

I have a fair bit of accumulative anger from childhood right through the last fifty years. I can tell you that it is crippling. I’m going to talk about it in various forms in future articles but my over riding anger came from the world and people not being the way I wanted them to be.

Yes, my biggest break through came from realising I was an entitled prick. I feel embarrassed about some of my behaviour in the past but mostly, I just feel grateful that the realisation has led me into a journey that has freed me to believe in the next thirty years and embrace living wholeheartedly.

Sian climbing snowdon on 60th birthday

Join me on my journey

I have a lot of opinions on a lot of subjects but few have made me feel that I want to speak out about. I’m surprised that I feel so passionately about Positive Ageing.

Of course, I can see that it’s triggered by my own experience of getting older but I also see the injustice of old age experienced by others.

This is the start of my journey and I want to document it. I don’t know how far I will take it.

Here are some of the things that I plan to address in blogs, podcasts and who knows what. 

Political Issues

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Ageist Feminism

Feminism that predominantly focuses on the needs and challenges of younger and middle-aged women, while failing to address or acknowledge unique issues experienced by older women such as ageism and sexism in healthcare, workplace discrimination, and visibility in media and society. 

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Digital Discrimination

Digital discrimination is the unfair scenario where older adults are unable to access vital services because they are not connected to technology. They do not understand technology nor are they comfortable, leaving them feeling locked out and left behind in our fast-paced digital world.

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Ageism in the Workplace

Workplace ageism deprives society of the full potential and talents of its workforce, which is detrimental to both individuals and the broader economy.  Businesses need to creating an inclusive workplace environment and provide diversity training.

Health & Wellbeing

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Physical Fitness

The importance of physical fitness as we age cannot be understated – it’s our own personal fountain of youth, a lifeline to vitality that keeps us tethered to life’s vibrant pulse. As we age, let’s not forget the potential our bodies hold and the power we possess to shape our own destiny.

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Food

I’ve always believed that food can heal or harm. Our dietary choices don’t merely satiate our hunger; they are the building blocks that shape our health and, ultimately, our aging process. The art of eating, like life itself, is about savouring quality over quantity.

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Mental Health

Our mental health, can shift and change as we age. Some find wisdom and tranquility while others may grapple with loneliness or cognitive decline. But what if we viewed these changes not as inevitable declines but as opportunities for growth and self-discovery?

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Technology and Digital Literacy

Technology can keep us connected with loved ones, help manage our health, stimulate our minds, and even open doors to new learning opportunities. This isn’t about chasing the latest tech fads; rather, it’s about understanding and utilising digital tools that can enrich our lives.

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Social Connection

Our social connections – the bonds we forge, the conversations we share, the laughter and tears we exchange – are not just pleasurable pastimes. They are the threads that weave the fabric of our emotional well-being, our sense of belonging, and our continued cognitive vitality.

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Lifelong Learning

Whether it’s exploring a new hobby, delving into an interesting book, or even learning a new language, each learning experience adds a vibrant color to the canvas of our lives. It keeps our minds agile, our hearts open, and our spirits alive. It’s never too late to explore, gro, and discover.

Coming Soon

ADHD or Childhood Trauma

Is Your Childhood Still Holding You Back?

Every day is a School Day: The Joy of Lifelong Learning

Stoicism and the Art of Ageing

Believing in an Ageing Future

Feel free to give me your suggestions too.

 

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